I am naturally shy. Very, very shy, in fact. And last night, I bought a vibrator at walmart. It was hard for me to get over the potential embarrassment. But thinking of what this means about my causes is helpful to me. See, I care a lot about the things I believe in. I am the sort of person who cannot just ignore a principle for practicality unless there are some very, very serious consequences. So, when I wanted to buy a sex toy, all I had to do to stop being nervous was breathe and say to myself "I am a sex-positive feminist. Sex is nothing to be ashamed of. I am a sex-positive feminist" and repeat. Then, I was able to smile at the lady behind the cash register and buy it.
There seems to be this idea in the media that sex isn't a part of a person, that if you have sex, or even enjoy masturbation, you're somehow not a person with idiosyncracies other than sexual, or else that your sexual self is entirely seperate from the rest of you. It's not. Everyone can just relax about sex because it's a part of you, maybe a smaller part, maybe a bigger one, but no matter what, you don't become not you anymore when you're feeling sexual or when you have sex or whatever. These are all on the level of your other characteristics.
Take me for example, I love some wonderful oral sex, I masturbate in the middle of the night, and sometimes in public bathrooms to calm myself down. I also love to play harvest moon and zelda and like children's songs and phantom of the opera. These are all parts of me. Maybe they're not exceedingly relevant at certain times, but they're all, always a part of me.
I'm having a little trouble trying to figure out exactly what I'm trying to say. I guess what I mean is that you shouldn't feel like sex dehumanizes you. It's not like that. It's just one more part of the beautiful picture that is you.
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Wednesday, August 3, 2011
Friday, July 8, 2011
Breastfeeding
http://www.llli.org/docs/Outcomes_of_breastfeeding_June_2007.pdf
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/17764214/
http://cat.inist.fr/?aModele=afficheN&cpsidt=14660645
You can check those facts and look for sources, but what it all boils down to is that formula is dangerous for babies. Please, don't put your babies at risk for these kinds of things. If you love your baby, breastfeed, and if it's not working right, do a little research, or hire a lactation consultant, hey, you might meet me, since that is my desired plan in life.
You may wonder why I'm saying that formula is dangerous instead of that breastmilk is helpful. Well,there's a good reason: breastfeeding is natural, it's normal, and it's expected out of every mother. So, the natural state of things is the immunities in breastmilk, while the lacktherof, is subnormal, inadequate and dangerous. I'm sure there will be more installments on breastfeeding to come soon, but for now, everyone, please think about it, if you ever intend to have children
Video Game Logic
Video games, for the most part are a past time meant for amusement only. They have little practical value, because no matter how good you are at them, it doesn't usually have the ability to translate into real life. Well, most of the time. In this post, I'm going to explain how video games can teach us a few things about real life.
1. It can't be impossible
The game designers would never make a game that was literally impossible to beat. They would never make any money. Now, this lesson can't be directly applied to real life, because real life doesn't have a game designer, so, some things are literally impossible. This is rare. And, usually, something anyone would want to do is possible. If you can't get through an area in a video game, You step back and examine your options. Is it possible to get through the way you're going? Are you not skilled enough to make it through? or are you trying to complete it the wrong way? These can all be applied to life. If you're trying to do something impossible, try looking at it again to see if you should practice more, or go a different way, or if that's just not the right thing for your life
2. You are special
In most video games, at least the type I play, you are the hero; the one destined to save the world from all evil. If someone says "you can't do that!", you prove them wrong. A forest child in a green tunic can be the savior of the world. In real life, you may be pretty average. But you are still unique, you are special, and there are things you can do that no one else can. And, a lot of the time, you can do things that everyone says you can't. You are the only one who is you.
3. Let someone else take over
This is a basic extention of #1. So, maybe it's not impossible, but no matter how much skill you have, you just can't master this one room in the dungeon. If you're playing with someone else, that usually means you let them take a turn at it. In life, that can mean a few different things. If it's impossible for you, you can ask for help is the simplest way to put it. I don't know how many times I've left life up to my Halley girl, and things have all turned out way better than if I'd tried them myself.
4. Take a break
When you've tried a level a million times, and just keep dying, what do you do? If you're like me, you probably put the controller down and leave the room, you talk to friends, eat, sleep, or go somewhere. This method is great for when you have put way too much effort into one goal or another and it just doesn't seem right. I find that when you take a break, it's easier to finish because you're frustration level is down
and finally
5. If you don't know, go to the internet
If you're totally stumped and just need to find that one last thing, an online walkthrough of that game is a great place to turn. Now, while you can follow video game walkthroughs blindly, I wouldn't suggest doing the same with life, but when you feel all alone in being you, the internet can help you get out of the immediate cultural mindset and to a more global standpoint. Also, taking advice at your discretion from bloggers and strangers can be helpful, at least, occasionally.
1. It can't be impossible
The game designers would never make a game that was literally impossible to beat. They would never make any money. Now, this lesson can't be directly applied to real life, because real life doesn't have a game designer, so, some things are literally impossible. This is rare. And, usually, something anyone would want to do is possible. If you can't get through an area in a video game, You step back and examine your options. Is it possible to get through the way you're going? Are you not skilled enough to make it through? or are you trying to complete it the wrong way? These can all be applied to life. If you're trying to do something impossible, try looking at it again to see if you should practice more, or go a different way, or if that's just not the right thing for your life
2. You are special
In most video games, at least the type I play, you are the hero; the one destined to save the world from all evil. If someone says "you can't do that!", you prove them wrong. A forest child in a green tunic can be the savior of the world. In real life, you may be pretty average. But you are still unique, you are special, and there are things you can do that no one else can. And, a lot of the time, you can do things that everyone says you can't. You are the only one who is you.
3. Let someone else take over
This is a basic extention of #1. So, maybe it's not impossible, but no matter how much skill you have, you just can't master this one room in the dungeon. If you're playing with someone else, that usually means you let them take a turn at it. In life, that can mean a few different things. If it's impossible for you, you can ask for help is the simplest way to put it. I don't know how many times I've left life up to my Halley girl, and things have all turned out way better than if I'd tried them myself.
4. Take a break
When you've tried a level a million times, and just keep dying, what do you do? If you're like me, you probably put the controller down and leave the room, you talk to friends, eat, sleep, or go somewhere. This method is great for when you have put way too much effort into one goal or another and it just doesn't seem right. I find that when you take a break, it's easier to finish because you're frustration level is down
and finally
5. If you don't know, go to the internet
If you're totally stumped and just need to find that one last thing, an online walkthrough of that game is a great place to turn. Now, while you can follow video game walkthroughs blindly, I wouldn't suggest doing the same with life, but when you feel all alone in being you, the internet can help you get out of the immediate cultural mindset and to a more global standpoint. Also, taking advice at your discretion from bloggers and strangers can be helpful, at least, occasionally.
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